How do you tell if you’re being fished into being vulnerable so they can use it against you?

It is a common narcissistic trait – they get you to trust them so you will feel comfortable sharing your deepest stories and even trauma with them. Then they use that information against you.

 

I have personal experience with this as my ex-husband was the king of this technique. Something I didn’t think to mention during the conversation, if someone is sharing other people’s secrets, trauma or stories with you, you can be sure they will share yours with other people. That is a HUGE red flag.

 

Don Gleason started this conversation off with a story where he was being told it was safe to speak his mind but he KNEW it wasn’t. He couldn’t get out of the situation and ended up being chewed out for speaking the truth.

 

Dina Perreault says she watches out for questions that are “leading the witness.” People who are trying to pry out specific information and looking for a fight. Later in the discussion she gave the tip of “okaying” your way out of a conversation. Just start agreeing until they stop talking.

 

Annette Richmond added that people who are trying to draw you out, almost badgering you for information might be trying to find a way to turn your words against you.

 

Watch out for people who tell you you are special, better than other people, that you and they have a bond and you can tell them your secrets. I’m not saying those types of bonds don’t exist. I am saying they take time to form. Be wary of someone who immediately love bombs you and wants to know the intimate details of your life.

 

How do you catch people trying to dig for personal details to use against you?

 

Connect with the panelists:
Annette Richmond: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annetterichmond/

Personal brand U. Personal brand strategist – helping people look 3-d in two D spaces like LinkedIn.

 

Don L. Gleason: https://www.linkedin.com/in/don-gleason/

President of Achieve New Heights focused on executive Career Transition and leadership as well as director of leadership and mentor at Society of American military engineers San Antonio post

 

Dina Perreault: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dinaperreault/

Vice President of Human Resources at The Faulkner Automotive Group | Secretary PA SHRM | Global Advisory Board Member – Achieve Next

 

Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

Known as the Mental MacGyver. My doctorate is in organizational business psychology with a concentration in sport and performance. I provide luxury level, high performance support and coaching to executives, founders, celebrities and athletes.

 

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