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Quick Hits are 10-minute conversations designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to hear other people‘s thoughts on a variety of subjects. In February of 2021 I and the members of my mastermind group thought other people might enjoy listening in on some of the lively conversations we were having. But we realized that no one was going spend 90-minutes listening to us going on about anything and sometimes nothing. Instead, we decided to pick one topic and have a short conversation to share. I took the reigns because facilitating those types of conversations sounded like fun. Over the course of a few months it grew from just members of our mastermind group to four (sometimes three if schedules go sideways) people from various parts of the world and from ”short” to exactly 10-minutes. Thus was born ”Quick Hits” hosted by me, Dr Robyn. I hope to get caught up with posting them here on PodBean at some point. As of this writing, I have over 100 ”episodes.” If you‘d like to see the videos of these conversations, they are available on my YouTube channel: https://bit.ly/DrRobynQuickHits If you have a topic you‘d like to hear discussed, I encouraged you to use the contact page of my website: https://drrobynodegaard.com/ to let me know.
Episodes
Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
(Trigger warning – there is a mention of suicide when a standup comedian’s bit is quoted in this conversation.)
Humor is a touchy subject. What makes something funny or not funny? Is it okay to tell off-color jokes as long as you “know your audience” and everyone who happens to be in the room thinks it’s funny (I don’t think so).
Ed Samuel started our conversation off by sharing that when he worked in the corporate world, he was scared away from using humor for fear of offending someone.
Jim Tam talked about movies or videos where people do things that cause them to get hurt (slapstick humor?) – Is that funny?
Bill Dolan said something I thought was pretty powerful: “We usually tell jokes because we believe they're a gift. And we believe we're contributing something to either a life or a group that brings them joy, that brings them temporal happiness.”
But something that is funny in one context might not be funny in another.
I took a stand against the idea locker room type humor – that it’s okay to make fun of or degrade other people/groups of people as long as they don’t hear you. (I am NOT saying any of the gentlemen on this panel were condoning this).
I didn’t say it during this conversation but having been told growing up that I was “too thin skinned” I have a belief that I shouldn’t have to be so thick skinned that I am okay with you cutting me and laughing while I bleed.
What do you think? How do you decide if someone doesn’t have a sense of humor or if something wasn’t funny?
Connect with the panelists:
Jim Tam: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jimtam/
Is a Principal Client Director with Korn Ferry’s Digital group where he advises organizations on how to improve their sales effectiveness through using world-class sales methodology and technology. He is based in Dallas.
Ed Samuel: https://www.linkedin.com/in/edsamuel/
Is a career coach at Sam Nova where he helps mid to senior leaders get to a better place, whether they are working or in transition.
Bill Dolan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/billdolan/
He is Virtual Event Director and Video Producer at Spirit Media where he has done Emmy-Nominated TV. He is a Marketing Strategist, an Author and a Coach: Helping people promote their brand stories
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Concierge High Performance Psychologist providing luxury level support to executives, entrepreneurs, celebrities, dignitaries and athletes as well as the Facilitator of the Quick Hits podcast
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
#humor #RayRamono #NotFunny #jokes #makemelaugh
Monday Mar 06, 2023
Monday Mar 06, 2023
In one of his first podcast conversations since being in the ICU Mario P Fields started us off by sharing how having a life threatening situation changed his view on productivity. There were days when just being able to stand on his own for ten seconds made him feel both happy and productive.
Lisa McDonald says that it is very situational for her. Happiness and productivity go hand in hand and may not be a function of each other at all.
Of course, Stewart Wiggins had to ask us “what is happiness?” And that is certainly a philosophical and complex question.
I countered with the idea that I can be hugely productive, marking things off my list, getting things done, and feel accomplished and not necessarily happy. Or I could go for a hike in the woods with my dog and not be at all productive (it is questionable whether that could be defined as productive), but I’m happy.
We went back and forth sharing different ideas of what happiness and productivity are and how they may or may not be linked together.
In the end Stewart made a profound statement: “Happiness is not transactional.”
And in that way, it is not at all linked with productivity. You can choose to be happy - - regardless.
What do you think of this chicken/egg questions? Does happiness lead to productivity or is being productive what makes someone happy?
Connect with the panelists:
Lisa McDonald: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-k-mcdonald-executive-career-coach/
Founder of Career Polish where she is an Executive Career Coach & Master Mindset Coach who helps people get career happy and life healthy
Stewart Wiggins: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stewart-wiggins/
Induna Advisors – where he offers Fractional Chief Operating Officer services and Brings resources together to help scale your business
Mario P. Fields: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariopfields/
Marine core veteran. Small business owner. Host and producer of the podcast, Unarmored Talk
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Concierge High Performance Psychologist providing luxury level support to executives, entrepreneurs, celebrities, dignitaries and athletes as well as the Facilitator of the Quick Hits podcast
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
#happiness #productivity #unarmoredtalk
Thursday Mar 02, 2023
Thursday Mar 02, 2023
Humans are designed to be able to learn through observation. Dr Bob Choat shared that the part of the brain that engages in prediction – what will or won’t work is called the ventral striatum. That is what allows us to not have to make all the mistakes ourselves - - IF we pay attention and apply what we learn.
That can be a big IF.
Chandima Dutton echoed that when she said sometimes we just need to shup up and watch. Pay attention to what is working or not working and make adjustments in our behavior. Often times it is learning what NOT to do.
As the saying goes, if nothing else someone can serve as a bad example (although side note – never call a kid up in class and use them as a bad example. I speak from experience. It is humiliating.)
Coach MJ Tolan shared that he has turned the epic failures he has seen in management over the years into his books, speaking topics and leadership courses. In that way he learned from others what needed to be taught and shared so his students wouldn’t make the same mistakes.
There is something to be said about sharing the mistakes of the few to help the many. That goes above and beyond learning for yourself.
We also talked briefly about how learning from other people’s mistakes can be missing information because you can’t see all of the information and thought process they went through to make their decision.
How do you learn from other people’s mistakes? Do you think humans do it as much as we like to think we do?
Connect with the panelists:
Dr. Bob Choat: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobchoat/
He has eight years military experience, worked with the LA PD, was a stage hypnotist, owned a wildly successful business and is going back to school for another PhD. This time in physics
Chandima Dutton: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chandimadutton/
Coach, Consultant and Facilitator helping leaders engineer resilience in themselves and their people
Coach M J Tolan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/motivationalspeakertolan/
Speaker, author and entrepreneur with 35 years experience. He has lived in 12 countries and is the host of the podcast Mission I’m Possible.
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Concierge High Performance Psychologist providing luxury level support to executives, entrepreneurs, celebrities, dignitaries and athletes as well as the Facilitator of the Quick Hits podcast
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
#mistakes #learning #personaldevelopment
Wednesday Mar 01, 2023
Wednesday Mar 01, 2023
As you will hear each of the panelists say, this question seems straightforward when you first read it. But…
When I posed it to Chat GPT it said this:
“Friendship is a relationship between two or more individuals that is characterized by mutual affection, trust, and support. It is a bond that can form between people who share common interests, experiences, or activities, and can also involve shared beliefs and values. Friendships can be a source of emotional support and companionship, and can also provide opportunities for personal growth and learning.”
It is SO much more nuanced than that in reality.
Brandon Mahoney said he doesn’t think he could write a definition for friendship because it would be constantly expanding. More things would have to be added in and explained.
At first glance Camille Diaz thought it might be easy to say a friend is someone who gets you and always has your back. But then you also want someone who is going to give it to you straight maybe give you the love news you need to hear.
Kevin Wash shared that he had a friend who he had lost touch with for 35ish years. They have reconnected since Covid and now talk every Saturday.
There are some people who are friends because your lives are on a similar path now and there are friends who you will be able to call and enjoy them no matter how long it has been.
In the course of this conversation, I realized that there is something about friendship that is reciprocal. I am 100% available and that person for my clients. But I don’t go to them with my stuff. That is what makes it a client relationship.
Similarly, you’ve heard me say on Quick Hits before, if a “friend” calls me with their stuff but isn’t there for me for my stuff, that’s not a friend. That’s an unintended pro bono client.
What is friendship to you? Where is the line?
Connect with the panelists:
Kevin Wash: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevin-wash-23b90915/
Coach, mentor, author, trainer, and speaker running a consultancy business specializing in sales for international property development. Based in Spain
Brandon Mahoney: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandoncmahoney/
Co Founder of Launch Point Labs, National venture firm where he is the expert in creating sales departments.
Camille Diaz: https://www.linkedin.com/in/camillediaz/
She is an Optimization Coach. creating custom systems and processes you’ll love so you can do it, stick to it, and get lasting results.
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Concierge High Performance Psychologist providing luxury level support to executives, entrepreneurs, celebrities, dignitaries and athletes as well as the Facilitator of the Quick Hits podcast
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
#friendship #connection #humans
Tuesday Feb 28, 2023
Tuesday Feb 28, 2023
The really simple answer is that hearing is the physical ability for the ear to detect sound waves and send them to the brain. Listening is the brain interpreting those sounds into meaning.
But in language we don’t use hearing and listening with that strong delineation.
When someone says, “You aren’t listening to me!” What we usually mean, “You aren’t doing what I told you to do.”
When we say, “Can you hear me?” we don’t just mean, “is the sound of my voice reaching your ears?” What we mean is, “Are the sounds I’m making getting to your brain so you can interpret them?”
We use listening to share memories, pass along information and resolve conflict.
Dr Bob Choat spun off of Philip’s comment about dialog and shared that disagreement should start with listening. Too often we see disagreements (often online) where everyone is screaming and no one is listening.
As I type that it occurs to me that “listening” can also be used to mean to thoughtful read someone’s comment before responding.
Philip Tate made three points about mid-way through the conversation summing up what we had discussed so far: Ask good questions. Wait to speak. Stay focused/present in the conversation.
Something to consider about listening is that it requires a pause in the conversation. That time to absorb what is being said, consider it and then formulate your response.
Unfortunately, that pause is usually filled by someone who was thinking about what they wanted to say rather than listening.
I am also wondering, what the difference is between listening and communicating. Is communicating more about talking or is there a listening component inherently included in the idea of communication?
Connect with the panelists:
Dr. Bob Choat: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobchoat/
He has eight years military experience, worked with the LA PD, was a stage hypnotist, owned a wildly successful business and is going back to school for another PhD. This time in physics
Philip Tate: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philiptateaprfellowprsa/
He is a communications consultant doing Brand Building | Strategic Communications and Marketing based in Charlotte NC
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Concierge High Performance Psychologist providing luxury level support to executives, entrepreneurs, celebrities, dignitaries and athletes as well as the Facilitator of the Quick Hits podcast
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
#hearing #listening #communication
Monday Feb 27, 2023
Monday Feb 27, 2023
The phrase, “You make me…” is so common when emotions enter a conversation that I have actually talked about it as a trigger point when I teach communication and productive conflict.
I wondered how other people engage in these types of landmine conversations.
Kevin Wash started us off by saying he has learned that he is not responsible for other people’s feelings and that he will abdicate when someone tries to blame him for their emotions. They aren’t his fault and he simply won’t be blamed for them.
Atif Agha then added that it is important to make sure you didn’t do something that you need to apologize for. Once you’ve determined that, are you learning from your interactions to not step in it again and again with someone?
Coach MJ Tolan followed up with two points. One – that if you are in a leadership position you sometimes need to help people with their emotions by creating a private space for them to vent so they can move on. And two – that there are cultural missteps you can make that will cause a problem. You need to be willing to smooth those over and learned from them.
From my point of view, having spent several years in a toxic relationship, I recognize pretty quickly when someone is being disproportionately angry and blaming me for it.
I try to keep a level head and acknowledge that they are angry while at the same time not allowing myself to get wound up but it.
Do you have a method that works for you when someone is blaming you for making them angry? We would love to hear it.
Connect with the panelists:
Atif Agha: https://www.linkedin.com/in/atifagha/
Technology specialist doing data analytics and avid runner, based in Chicago
Coach M J Tolan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/motivationalspeakertolan/
Speaker, author and entrepreneur with 35 years experience. He has lived in 12 countries and is the host of the podcast Mission I’m Possible.
Kevin Wash: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevin-wash-23b90915/
Coach, mentor, author, trainer, and speaker running a consultancy business specializing in sales for international property development. Based in Spain
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
High Performance Concierge Psychologist and Quick Hits Facilitator
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Concierge High Performance Psychologist providing luxury level support to executives, entrepreneurs, celebrities, dignitaries and athletes as well as the Facilitator of the Quick Hits podcast
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
#anger #blame #responsibility
Friday Feb 24, 2023
Friday Feb 24, 2023
Yet another conversation that seems like it should be straightforward. Surely it is clear how we figure out what we want out of life. But nope. It is about as clear as mud.
James Lee from StratFi started us off by sharing insight from Otto Scharmer and economist from MIT. There are three ways to look at it: What you think. What you feel and what your gut says.
Alexi Bracey wants to know what feeds her soul and how she can make a difference in the world. She asked the question, “What do you want to be remembered for?”
Is it weird that I don’t really care if I’m remembered after I’m on to whatever is next after life on this planet?
Stewart Wiggins shared that the way he decides what he wants is by being a lifetime learner - doing lots of things and having lots of experiences.
We even got into how pressures and desires change from generation to generation.
Take a listen to this conversation. I really can’t do it justice in the written summary.
Have you figured out what you want out of life? If so, how did you do it?
Connect with the panelists:
James Lee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jleeadvisor/
Financial futurist at Stratfi he has 30 years experience. Author of the book, Foresight Investing: A Complete Guide to Finding Your Next Great Trade
Stewart Wiggins: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stewart-wiggins/
Induna Advisors – where he offers Fractional Chief Operating Officer services and Brings resources together to help scale your business
Alexi Bracey: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexi-bracey-34935a7/
Cancer reversal expert focusing on health and healing from the holistic side.
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Concierge high performance psychologist providing luxury level support to executives, entrepreneurs, celebrities, dignitaries and athletes and Quick Hits Facilitator
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
#lifegoals #happiness #success
Thursday Feb 23, 2023
Thursday Feb 23, 2023
It seems like things are really different than they were before the pandemic and I wondered if how sales are made has changed.
Brandon Mahoney said he thinks the pandemic simply accelerated changes that were already coming. More self-service and remote sales rather than people in boardrooms giving presentations.
Joey Robert Parks and Gary Fredricks agreed with each other in that it’s great because they have a bigger reach. They can now have clients all over the country (or the world). But the downside is they feel like they can’t really connect with people because “something” is missing.
It is body language or something more? They weren’t sure.
It used to be you would go to lunch, maybe have drinks or some coffee. Discuss business eye to eye and end the conversation with a handshake.
Now it’s all back and forth via email or an app and people show up know exactly what they want because they have been able to do the research themselves. They don’t need you to educate them.
I have also noticed that consumers have gotten pickier about the services they use because they have more options. Four years ago a client in the UK would have hired someone in the UK who could show up in their office. Now they can hire me and it’s no different because even the person in the UK isn’t coming to their office anymore.
There are certainly pros and cons about how business is done now.
What changes to the marketing and sales process do you think we missed? What is different for you now as opposed to 2019?
Connect with the panelists:
Brandon Mahoney: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandoncmahoney/
Gary Fredericks: https://www.linkedin.com/in/garyfredericks/
Joey Robert Parks: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joeyrobertparks/
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
Wednesday Feb 22, 2023
Wednesday Feb 22, 2023
It is hard to find a good coach or advisor. I’m in the industry and I have seen and hired some really awful ones.
I know what I do to allow my clients to feel comfortable with me and know that I’m the real deal. But I wondered how other people vetted professional help.
Before we could really have this conversation, Dr Mohan Ananda pointed out that we had to define the difference between a coach and an advisor.
He says that an advisor is someone you hire to help you with a short-term, right now, give me advice type of problem.
Conversely, a coach is someone who you work with for long-term growth type goals. Someone who can help you develop into a better leader or even a better person.
(Do you agree with that breakdown?)
Rick Alcantara was able to provide us with a starting list of questions he uses:
- Do they have some real-world experience in what you are interested in pursuing?
- How many clients do they work with?
- Will they have time to meet with you if you need help?
- Are they looking out for your best interest or just trying to sell you into their seminar, books or workshops?
- Does their approach and temperament match mine?
- Are they a thought leader?
Lisa McDonald added the important point that you can’t hire someone if they don’t understand what you want, can’t communicate with you and aren’t emotionally intelligent.
I didn’t bring it up during the conversation but I do want to add here to be careful about a coach who sounds like they know EXACTLY what you need and how to “fix” you. First – you aren’t broken. And second – they could just be pushing your buttons to take your money.
As a CEO friend of mine puts it, “Most of the coaching industry is crap.”
If you are a coach, how do you stand out as not being crap?
If you want/need to hire a coach/advisor, how do you make sure you get a good one?
Connect with the panelists:
Rick Alcantara: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rickalcantara/
Lisa McDonald: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-k-mcdonald-executive-career-coach/
Dr. Mohan Ananda: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mohanananda/
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
#coach #advisor #hiringhelp
Tuesday Feb 21, 2023
Tuesday Feb 21, 2023
When thinking about smooth talkers it’s an easy jump to think politics. People who say lots of words, sound like they know what they are talking about, but make you feel lost. What are they talking about? Do those words actually mean anything when you string them together?
But someone who is a complex thinker who has a lot of knowledge on a given subject could be equally as confusing to listen to. Rick Alcantara brought up Allen Greenspan (American economist who served as the 13th chairman of the Federal Reserve from 1987 to 2006).
All he had to do was carry his briefcase a certain way and the market would move. Never mind that the average human couldn’t make heads or tails of what he was saying.
Stewart Wiggins said that a smooth talker is transactional – they are trying to confuse you to get you to do something or buy something you might not want.
I thought I agreed with that.
Jim Tam brought up the point that a smooth talker will think on the fly; talking as fast as the words form in their mind. But a critical thinker will put more thought into the words to make sure they are saying the right thing.
Steve Jobs and Richard Branson – Smooth talkers and critical thinkers?
By the end of this conversation I was less certain about the definition of these two terms. Is a smooth talker someone who is simply very eloquent or are do they have to have a nefarious intention?
Are all critical thinkers awkward? (I don’t think so)
Now I have to wonder if I’m as much a critical thinker as I thought I was because I am reasonably eloquent.
What do you think? What is the different between these two types of people? Are they mutually exclusive?
Connect with the panelists:
Rick Alcantara: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rickalcantara/
Stewart Wiggins: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stewart-wiggins/
Jim Tam: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jimtam/
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
Want a summary of the Quick Hits I post every week, plus the links to the LinkedIn pages of each of the panelist to show up in your in-box every week? Just let me know where to send it: https://drrobynodegaard.com/quick-hits-notifications/
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on pertinent subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com
#politics #smoothtalker #thinkcritically #deepthoughts