Quick Hits

Is it possible to over-communicate?

In a world where communication is touted as the solution to every problem, could communication also be a problem?

I asked Rick Alcantara, M.A., Dr Cole Galloway and Dina Perreault for their thoughts and it was a resounding yes! Communicating to the point that your message gets lost in the noise means there is too much, causing people to stop listening and then not hearing what is important. 

Where have you noticed over communication being a problem?

To connect with the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
Rick Alcantara: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rickalcantara/   
Dina Perreault: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dinaperreault/ 
Cole Galloway, PT, PhD: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cole-galloway-1ba715107/ 
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com 

#communication #publicrelations #messaging #overwhelmed

What do you do when you’re right and someone else is publicly wrong?

You don't want to gloat (well maybe you do but you shouldn't) but you might need to say something to acknowledge the situation. Or other people might be jumping on the bandwagon to shame the person who was wrong by using the information you brought to the discussion.

What do you do? I had the opportunity to ask Janice Dru-Bennett, Bill Lindquist and Brigitte Skeene exactly this question.

To connect with the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
Janice Dru-Bennett: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janicedru/  
Bill Lindquist: https://www.linkedin.com/in/williamslindquist/
Brigitte Skeene: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brigittes/ 
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com 

#shame #publicrelations #publicrelationtips #disagreement

Is it better to comment on someone else’s post or take your idea and create your own post?

Ahh social media. The land of trying to figure out what exactly you are doing here, how the algorithm works (Don't bother. It will change as soon as you think you've got it), deleting comments you think better of (hopefully before posting), trying to be original, trying (successfully or otherwise ) to not waste your time arguing with people dead-set on not understanding you and in the end wondering if you are just screaming into a black, pointless void.

And yet here we all are, persisting. And so, with ever optimism Sara Oblak Speicher, MBA, David Horsewood, Thomas Russo Jr, MPA, CPM and I purposefully walked into a conversation about the best way to get your thoughts, ideas and opinions out to the world.

My hope is that you will both comment on this post and share it to create your own conversation. TIA (pointless use of an acronym because writing out "Thank you in advance" is too much typing after already writing three paragraphs) 

To connect with the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
Sara Oblak Speicher: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saraospeicher/  
David Horsewood: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhorsewood/ 
Thomas Russo Jr: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thomassrussojr/ 
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com 

#socialmediaforbusiness #socialmedia #commentbelow # #share #like

How do you let go of the need to convince someone that you are right?

Sometimes you just have to let someone be wrong. It doesn't matter. It's not important. Just let them go on their way. BUT it can be SO hard to do. Particularly if you are already into the fray about something.

I asked Atif Agha, Stewart Wiggins and Gary Fredericks how they handled situations like that. 

The bottom line: It is easier sad than done but it is something we all need to do more of.

To connect with the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
Atif Agha: https://www.linkedin.com/in/atifagha/ 
Stewart Wiggins: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stewart-wiggins/ 
Gary Fredericks: https://www.linkedin.com/in/garyfredericks/ 
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com 

#letitgo  #IamRight #YouAreWrong #youdoyou

Why is it so frustrating to be misunderstood?

Have you ever thought, "This is so simple and I'm explaining it to you clearly. Why don't you get it?" When you take a moment to notice the emotion attached to that, it's always frustration. 

Even if we are trying to communicate across second or third languages, we get frustrated. 

I asked Brandon Mahoney, Wayne Buckhanan, PhD and JC Glick, LTC (R), U.S. Army, MA their thoughts on why we get frustrated about something that is relatively easy to fix.

I found their insights thought provoking - which is exactly what I like to get out of Quick Hits.

What do you think? Why is being misunderstood frustrating to you?

To connect with the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
Dr. Wayne Buckhanan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/waynebuckhanan/ 
Brandon Mahoney: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandoncmahoney/ 
JC Glick: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jcglick/ 
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com 

#communication #frustration #frustrated  #misunderstand #misunderstood

Where is the line between being thorough and excessive?

Years ago I made a rule for myself that I will only proofread an email twice before I send it. I was SO afraid I would send something out with a misspelling or use the wrong word (I'm a little bit dyslexic so it happens) and someone would think I was stupid. 

My fear of looking stupid grew when I joined a writers group after my first book was published. You have never seen people tear others down about grammar, word usage and the Oxford comma like a group of people for whom the rules of writing are seen as common sense. 

But what I realized is, proofreading something over and over without taking a break wasn't anymore likely to lead to me catching an error than reading it once. The second time was just for my anxiety.

I was wondering where the line between thorough and excessive was for other people so I asked Brandon Mahoney, David Horsewood and Christopher Martin how it worked for them.

Interestingly, what one thought might be excessive another found to be thorough.

What about you? Where is the line?    

Full disclosure: I proofread this three times because the first time I changed part of it so I had to reset the count. :-)

To connect with the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
David Horsewood: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhorsewood/ 
Christopher Martin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrismartincomms/
Brandon Mahoney: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandoncmahoney/ 
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com

#doitright #GoodEnough #perfectionism #RecoveringPerfectionist

How do you catch yourself “fixing” when someone just needs you to listen?

It is an age-old problem. Someone is sharing a problem. You know what they need to solve it. You try to tell them and they get mad at YOU for not understanding. 

It works the other way too. You want to vent and the person you are talking to wants to solve.
I asked Cami, Jim Lee and Domenico how they notice when they are fixing rather than listening. The resulting conversion is thoughtful, honest and sometimes funny.

Listen in and then let us know, why do you think humans are so drawn to fix other people’s stuff when we KNOW we just want to talk about our own?

To connect with the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
James Lee: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jleeadvisor/ 
Cami Travis-Groves: https://www.linkedin.com/in/goodjujucami/ 
Domenico Ciarallo: https://www.linkedin.com/in/domenicociarallo/ 
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com

#justlisten #dontsolve #venting #fixer #dontfix

Quick Hits extended! The Peter Principle, why it happens and how leaders can avoid it in their organizations.

The Peter Principle, a management problem highlighted by Laurence J. Peter, will kill an organization. The leaders in charge of hiring and promoting are responsible for not letting that happen. 

A couple of days ago I had the opportunity to have a Quick Hits conversation with three experts in their field about how leaders can avoid the Peter Principle in their organizations (https://youtu.be/WjpJ1KZ8Quw). The conversation was so good we decided to do the first ever Quick Hits extended. 

In a bizarre twist of technology fate, in the first conversation Dr Ulwyn's internet was unstable and in this conversation Dr Bob was popping in and out.

But the conversation went on as it does when talking with pros. I didn't want to miss the opportunity to share the conversation just because of technology drama.

To connect with any of the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
Dr. Bob Choat: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobchoat/ 
Dr. Ulwyn Pierre: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drulwyn/ 
Dr. Mohan Ananda: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mohanananda/ 
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/
 
#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com 

#peterprinciple #LaurenceJPeter #ManagementMistakes #leadership #LeaderResponsibility

What is the difference between going fast and rushing?

The consensus was that going fast is in control, rushing is chaotic and prone to mistakes. But how do you know the difference in the moment - BEFORE a mistake happens? Where is the edge?

Dr Jesse Carrie, Coach M J Tolan, James W Haile Jr, C.P.M. and I had talked about times we have gone fast or rushed. I shared a personal story of being completely in control (going fast) during an emergency but then falling apart after the fact.

Listen in and then let us know, how do you know if you are going fast in control or rushing and risking mistakes?

To connect with the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
Dr Jesse Carrie: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jesse-carrie-70765036/ 
Coach M J Tolan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/motivationalspeakertolan/ 
James W Haile Jr: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-w-haile-jr-c-p-m-97a3b52/  
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com 

#gofast #breakthings #SlowIsSmooth #SmoothIsFast

How do you decide when you should say nothing?

It is an art to speak up when something hard needs to be said. It is a skill to be silent in the moments when you "know" the answer or when things get awkward (during a negotiation). 

I asked George Rotsch, Glady Baradaran and Doug Crowe how they decide when they should simply say nothing. A big thank you to each of them for sharing their experience and personal stories with me!

To connect with the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
Glady Baradaran: https://www.linkedin.com/in/glady-baradaran-msc-od-6238071a/
George Rotsch: https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgerotsch/ 
Doug Crowe: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedougcrowe/ 
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

#QuickHits are designed to exercise your brain by letting you listen in on an unscripted conversation to get other people's thoughts on various subjects. If you would like to join a conversation or have a topic you would like to hear discussed, please message me. https://www.DrRobynOdegaard.com

#PowerofSilence #BeingQuiet #quiet #experience